This is written for men preparing for prostate surgery, and for the partners and family walking through it with them. Most men are told the same thing after a prostatectomy: some leaking is normal, give it time. That's true, but it's also not the whole story. The muscles that control your bladder can be retrained. Pain or discomfort can be managed and the path back to work, golf, tennis, or whatever you're currently modifying your life around can be shorter than you think. Pe